Getting some disgusting comments on Instagram (because ofc I am) and I so badly want to say something but my team won’t let me because it “fuels the fire” and my page “should be a safe space”, not one where I “engage aggressively with others”, even though they’re the ones bringing that negative energy. I don’t have much room in my heart to hate, but I deeply dislike having to “be the bigger person” when I’m getting abusive comments. Talk about a rhetoric in favour of abusive people. :/
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drprostate 🌟
2026-05-04 21:51 🇨🇦
A lot of it is ragebait is specifically curated and commented to be the most likely to garner a reaction out of you. They'll purposely pick the topics they know will hurt you; repeat offenders will usually spend a good amount of time on your page to get an idea of what will set you off.
Think of it less as needing to defend yourself / be the bigger person, and more along the lines of "my time is precious, and is best spent working on what brings me peace of mind." When you focus on your priorities, it becomes easier to shift your mindset away from negative attention.
There is no way to avoid hatred; the only way out, is back in!
Sending you a big hug through the screen regardless <3
Think of it less as needing to defend yourself / be the bigger person, and more along the lines of "my time is precious, and is best spent working on what brings me peace of mind." When you focus on your priorities, it becomes easier to shift your mindset away from negative attention.
There is no way to avoid hatred; the only way out, is back in!
Sending you a big hug through the screen regardless <3
Ya know, very rarely does responding to negative comments online actually benefit someone in any way. Sometimes leaving their negative comments up from brothers to see without responding or fueling anything further is the correct move, even though I understand the frustration. Some people crave a response and nothing that you say can improve the situation, but ignoring them can be the most impactful thing you can respond with. Sorry you're having a rough time with it and I totally get the feeling! Try to not let it get to you and forget them the best you can.
It’s very difficult to do that, especially when you already deeply struggle with your mental health and self-esteem, not to mention that some of the things they’re saying are actively triggering (I have CPTSD). I am finding it so frustrating and distressing to not be able to defend myself. Thank you for your kind words though, it means a lot that you cared enough to share them <3